Do you suffer from a negative mindset? Do you find it impossible to be happy no matter how hard you try? Well, your mindset is controlled by your thoughts. So, if you want to change your mindset, first you need to change your thoughts. And let me tell you, it can be difficult, but it is not impossible. You have to want to change your thoughts and you have to work at it.
On the average day over 60,000 thoughts will pass through your mind. But did you know that 70% of these thoughts are the same thoughts from the day before? Just like you form habits in your life like brushing your teeth, your mind forms habits with your thoughts.
This is why when you experience hardship or are worried, the thoughts seem to stick in your head forever. Thus, if you truly want to change your mindset, you need first start by stopping the bad thought habits in your mind.
One way is to start by developing mantras you can repeat to yourself when the bad thoughts come up. These should be specific to the thought you are having. For example, if you think ‘I am horrible at this’ everyday, you should resolve instead to think ‘I can learn to do this.’ Then, next time the negative thought surfaces, block it with the positive mantra. Keep doing this until your mind stops automatically reverting to negative thoughts.
The trick is to catch yourself having negative thoughts. Once you can do that, you can work on changing it. You do not have to continue repeating those negative thoughts. You can replace them.
Your Thoughts Follow Your Focus
You will naturally think about the things you are focused on in life. Once you stop the thoughts which pop up in your mind habitually, it’s time to also look at what you are focusing on. Are you always looking in the mirror and then struggling with thoughts of inadequacy? It might be time to change your focus to something else. If you only focus on the negative things which are happening in your life, your thoughts will only be negative.
Resolve to change to focus on the positives in your life. One of the best ways to do this is by practicing gratitude. You should aim to make a list of things you are thankful for every day. And if you still have too much free time to focus on negative thoughts, maybe it’s time to start a new hobby you know will enjoy.
Check out the 30 Days of Gratitude Journal at my Etsy store. Journaling is a great way to change your thoughts and your mindset.
Watch What You Add To Your Thoughts
Ever wonder how those negative thoughts got there in the first place? Well you put them there of course. Your mind is a sponge and it will absorb whatever you spend time feeding it. So, if you want to have a more positive and happier mindset, then it’s time to start putting positive and happy things into your mind.
Read uplifting and informative novels such as memoirs of people who have overcome great adversity. And if you watch sad or negative TV shows, such as the news, it’s probably better to spend your time in front of the tube watching something which makes you happy instead. Try something like Positive Prime. It’s free and only takes a few minutes each day, but it’s very uplifting and positive.
Beyond just that, when you are spending time with your friends, try to keep the conversation positive, and then they will say positive things back to you. Don’t talk others down or point out your own flaws as this will just contribute to your negative thought processes.
Changing your mindset is no easy process. Especially because your mindset is based on your thoughts—this means you have to change your thought process before you can even hope to accomplish anything else.
Start by first stopping your bad thought habits, then it’s time to start evaluating what you are focusing on. Feed your mind positive information, and you’ll be surprised at the positive thoughts which result. And once you’ve done this, a positive mindset won’t be far behind.
All the best,
P.S. Feel free to share your thoughts or experience in the comments below.
I’m an Imperfect Christian, Musician’s Wife, Mom, Nana, Friend and Encourager. I work on this site for my own growth and benefit, probably more so than I do for others, but I pray that what I’m learning and sharing will help others in their personal development and journaling adventures.